When we heal, we also grow. Growing is the development and maturing of us as unique spiritual beings physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. We develop and accomplish our unique, special divine purpose as we do. To grow, we often have…
Each of us can make our corner of this world different and better. Can you imagine what it would be like if everyone, or even most, did? We can smile, help, open a door, encourage, pick up trash, give food…
Here is my correct website: www.drdonnalamar.com Healing from trauma gives us an excellent new start in life. We can get discouraged and need to remember why we are working at healing. Here are some reasons: When we choose it, we…
Who am I, and why am I writing all these blogs about healing? I am a doctor of psychology, a psychologist. I am a trauma specialist with a personal trauma history that I sometimes share if it helps people heal….
We worked hard to survive, learn to love, and be loved despite what we endured being traumatized. We had to go beyond the pain and choose to heal and love instead of hate. If we do not choose healing and…
After the last post, I was asked why I would expose my history and struggles. I did it because we who have been traumatized are often shoved in a corner, shamed, made to feel less than others, and majorly not…
“Open up to love again.” I heard the request but could not do it. I had too much pain and betrayal from people who said they loved me. Let people love me again? Allow that wonderful feeling of being cared…
We have been talking about how we protect ourselves. Now, let’s talk about those feelings connected and twisted in us. Our protection system works to keep us protected. It also works to control our feelings from the trauma so we…
Trauma forces us to develop a protection system to help us survive. We use any resources around us to help us to keep safe and not be hurt – people, animals, nature, things, places, and internal walls. We use one…
What is a protection system? We create behaviors, thoughts, and feelings to protect ourselves from the pain of trauma and, if possible, from more trauma. When trauma first happened to us, we were defenseless and blindsided. We learn that to…
This question has haunted philosophers through the ages. Kierkegaard said love should focus on the person being loved first and foremost. Martin Buber said love was something more significant than affect – not a static feeling, but a dynamic state…
The Serenity Prayer reminds us to know the difference between what we can and cannot. The healing journey forces us to examine our choices for change in our lives. Here are areas to remember. Life is hard and, at times,…