PTSD & TRAUMA HEALING STEP 7
Be patient with yourself.
I’m not healing fast enough! I will never get there! I keep messing up! It’s not working! Why can’t I do anything right? How long does it take to heal?!
I hear these are common questions a lot. Healing is not a fast process, often two to three years. Do what it takes to heal and gain your freedom. It usually does not take as many years as we endured the trauma. Thank you, God.
How many years depends on what you endured, how long it lasted, your age(s), who hurt you, etc. Also, the length of time depends on if there were people who helped you, believed in you, and provided a sanctuary. Also, do you have people helping you in the healing process.
In the healing journey, we can become impatient, get mad, change therapists, change relationships, etc. We may start to believe we are doing something wrong and other things are the “real” problem. A poor relationship may be an issue, but keep healing to gain the necessary wisdom to make those crucial decisions.
Bottom line? Be patient with yourself. You need time to heal and process what has happened to you. You need time to learn about yourself because there has usually never been a time you could. It is not a selfish time. It is a time to be focused on our “self.”
- Have you been impatient with yourself healing? In what ways?
- How long did you think it would take? How long has it been?
- How have you taken care of yourself while healing?
I am Dr. Donna LaMar, PhD psychologist and speaker. I invite you to heal and gain freedom and wisdom.
