7 Ways Rejection Causes Us Pain

7 Ways Rejection Causes Us Pain

Rejection goes deep into our essence or souls, causing pain and a knowing we are unworthy of anything, definitely not love. We know we are not wanted, and others have rejected what we offer. We have nothing else to offer….

One Major Way To Change Rejection

One Major Way To Change Rejection

People reject us. Life itself seems to reject us. BUT there is one major way we are NEVER rejected: spiritually. I am not talking about faith-based organizations such as churches, temples, etc. I am talking about God, our creator. I…

Rejection and Holidays

Rejection and Holidays

When rejected, holidays often become painful, lonely, and beyond what we can endure. We see all the lights, joy, happiness, and families and KNOW everyone else has the blessings of the holidays, but not us. We see everyone going to…

6 Ways To Understand Rejection

6 Ways To Understand Rejection

Life is full of rejection, and it happens to everyone. To heal from it, we have to understand it. Here are 6 things to understand: I am Dr. Donna LaMar, PhD psychologist and speaker. I invite you to heal, gain…

The Trauma of Rejection

The Trauma of Rejection

Starting this blog, I will be focusing on rejection. Rejection happens to all of us. It feels so shameful to us, and we hide it. We keep it hidden so no one will know we are not okay. We, however,…

Shame and Its Trauma

Shame and Its Trauma

Shame is part of the trauma experience. It says something is wrong with me. Guilt is when I did something wrong. Shame is I am the wrong. Shame is deep, dark and lays over our spirit. It affects our personalities,…

What if I Fail? What if I Succeed?

Fear of success and failure are the same coin, flip sides. One side says I am terrified of failing, the other of succeeding. The bottom line? The fear trauma put in us. This fear causes low self-esteem and how we…

PTSD & TRAUMA HEALING STEP 8

The last step in this series is how to treat yourself while healing. When traumatized, we are hurt, condemned, isolated, rejected, scapegoated, not loved, not cared about, abandoned, betrayed, etc. Now it is time for us to treat ourselves differently,…

PTSD & TRAUMA HEALING STEP 7

Be patient with yourself. I’m not healing fast enough! I will never get there! I keep messing up! It’s not working! Why can’t I do anything right? How long does it take to heal?! I hear these are common questions…

PTSD & TRAUMA HEALING STEP 6

Develop your spirituality. We are spiritual beings, having a human experience in a hard school called life. We are mind, body, and spirit. To be healthy, we must develop all parts of ourselves, especially our spirituality. It is our essence…

PTSD & TRAUMA HEALING STEP 3

Use healthy techniques that do not re-victimize you. In my profession, there are many techniques, approaches, theories, models, etc. They are not all safe. In the previous post, I encouraged you to check out therapists carefully. The same goes for…