Shame and Its Trauma
Shame is part of the trauma experience. It says something is wrong with me. Guilt is when I did something wrong. Shame is I am the wrong. Shame is deep, dark and lays over our spirit. It affects our personalities,…
Shame is part of the trauma experience. It says something is wrong with me. Guilt is when I did something wrong. Shame is I am the wrong. Shame is deep, dark and lays over our spirit. It affects our personalities,…
The last step in this series is how to treat yourself while healing. When traumatized, we are hurt, condemned, isolated, rejected, scapegoated, not loved, not cared about, abandoned, betrayed, etc. Now it is time for us to treat ourselves differently,…
Be patient with yourself. I’m not healing fast enough! I will never get there! I keep messing up! It’s not working! Why can’t I do anything right? How long does it take to heal?! I hear these are common questions…
Develop a healthy support system. A support system contains people who come alongside and help us get through life with all its good and not-so-good stuff. This can be a few people, a group, a religious organization, etc. The people…
Find the resources you need to keep the healing process going. Sadly, therapy is expensive and time-consuming. Thank goodness there is insurance to help cover it. But deductibles and co-pays can be overwhelming. Also needed are gas, rides, etc. Often…
In the following posts, I will go over the steps to healing in more detail. First, we have to decide. Next and number one is “What do we do with all those feelings?” The answer? Feel them appropriately! All our…
Trauma victims always have some level of PTSD, from mild to severe. Sadly, we see PTSD as long-lasting, hopeless, and even permanent. It is not! It is healable, and there is always hope. As victims, we must ask ourselves, “Are…
PTSD is the diagnosis for people who have suffered from trauma. Its symptoms include but are not limited to depression, anxiety/fear, anxiety attacks, flashbacks (repeating uncontrollable memories), hypervigilance, triggers, nightmares, overwhelming or unmanageable thoughts, repeating memories and emotions, isolation, anger/rage,…
When we heal, we also grow. Growing is the development and maturing of us as unique spiritual beings physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. We develop and accomplish our unique, special divine purpose as we do. To grow, we often have…
Each of us can make our corner of this world different and better. Can you imagine what it would be like if everyone, or even most, did? We can smile, help, open a door, encourage, pick up trash, give food…
Here is my correct website: www.drdonnalamar.com Healing from trauma gives us an excellent new start in life. We can get discouraged and need to remember why we are working at healing. Here are some reasons: When we choose it, we…
We worked hard to survive, learn to love, and be loved despite what we endured being traumatized. We had to go beyond the pain and choose to heal and love instead of hate. If we do not choose healing and…