4 WAYS TO CHANGE THE WORLD

What’s happening in the world, and how can we change it? We are scared! Overwhelmed! Heartbroken! We work not to see many things we can’t even admit happened! What do we do to stop it? Can we stop it? Many…

HEALING CHOICES

We have freedom of choice. Life offers us many – where we live, what we eat, what we wear, where we work, do we choose to heal, and many other choices. What we will do with our Special Divine Purpose…

Shame and Its Trauma

Shame and Its Trauma

Shame is part of the trauma experience. It says something is wrong with me. Guilt is when I did something wrong. Shame is I am the wrong. Shame is deep, dark and lays over our spirit. It affects our personalities,…

We Have a Unique Purpose in Our Lives

“Why am I here? Why am I even alive? I get up. Go to work. Go home. Take care of the family. Then do it all over again. Is there more to me? Is there more to life? I feel…

PTSD & TRAUMA HEALING STEP 5

Develop a healthy support system. A support system contains people who come alongside and help us get through life with all its good and not-so-good stuff. This can be a few people, a group, a religious organization, etc. The people…

HEALING, IS IT WORTH IT?

Here is my correct website: www.drdonnalamar.com Healing from trauma gives us an excellent new start in life. We can get discouraged and need to remember why we are working at healing. Here are some reasons: When we choose it, we…

MORE ON WHY LOVE

We worked hard to survive, learn to love, and be loved despite what we endured being traumatized. We had to go beyond the pain and choose to heal and love instead of hate. If we do not choose healing and…

LOVE, WHY?

After the last post, I was asked why I would expose my history and struggles. I did it because we who have been traumatized are often shoved in a corner, shamed, made to feel less than others, and majorly not…

OPEN TO LOVE AGAIN

“Open up to love again.” I heard the request but could not do it. I had too much pain and betrayal from people who said they loved me. Let people love me again? Allow that wonderful feeling of being cared…

PROTECTION AND FEELINGS

We have been talking about how we protect ourselves. Now, let’s talk about those feelings connected and twisted in us. Our protection system works to keep us protected. It also works to control our feelings from the trauma so we…

OUR PROTECTION SYSTEM

What is a protection system? We create behaviors, thoughts, and feelings to protect ourselves from the pain of trauma and, if possible, from more trauma. When trauma first happened to us, we were defenseless and blindsided. We learn that to…